12 Signs to Prove that You Love Yourself
…that you didn’t know
While I was growing up, I despised my feet a lot; this would be because there was no time I saw a footwear I loved that I could get it. Often time it was oversized, as my foot was short compared to what a male foot should look like (I felt).
They usually purchased my shoe sizes based on special request. I don’t get it readily as I wanted and in most cases my choice of footwear was by availability but not what I loved.
I despised my feet so much that if I was alone, I would curse the feet. I thought I had the shortest male foot.
I noticed I had small slender fingers. While people appreciated my fingers for being ‘woman-like,’ as was the regular remark, it was a place of shyness for me. I folded my palms wherever I thought it might be noticed and talked about.
These parts of my body which I thought had defects made me overly concerned about the way I appear, and I wanted no one to make casual jokes with either my feet or fingers — it was going to make me uncomfortable. This affected my esteem until when I came to realize that my body parts made me unique as a person.
Later I discovered that many people have one thing, or another they battled with about the way they are and looked at. Some are not comfortable with where they were born, other's few body defects and other persons battling with some sort of guilt and strife from the past. This makes them to be in a state of ‘self rivalry,’ instead of love.
Ugly and unprecedented situations can also affect the way one sees and accepts themselves.
I once met a young girl who thinks she killed her mother. By my further interrogation, I was shocked to my bones by what she eventually told me.
She made me to understand that her mother died while giving birth to her.
She further told me they raised her in negligence and anger. When her dad is drunk, he always tells her that if it wasn’t because of her, his wife (her mother) would have been alive still.
She grew up believing she caused her mother’s death.
She caught my attention because she was so quiet and withdrawn from her peers. It took me a while with the help of a counselor to convince her she was as normal as any child and the mother’s death was not her fault.
Today, she is getting her life back, and she interacts freely than when I first saw her.
When one mentions “self-love,” it could be creepy, as everyone would almost assume they are in love with themselves. Probably because they are not exposing their bodies to hurt or starving the body; but loving yourself is way more than professing that you love yourself in the mouth but not at heart. You can buy a lot of gifts for yourself, yet you do not love yourself.
That is why in this post, you would see some simple but yet creepy signs to know whether or not you love yourself.
Self-love does not happen automatically, it is a cautious and willful desire to do so every day. It could be a life journey that progresses. You would be truly happy with yourself once you attain it.
We can prove it in you from the way you treat yourself and people around you.
“It is not who you are underneath, it’s what you do that defines you.” — Batman Begins
1. Motivation
They exhibit self motivation in their willingness to try — whether it is what they are used to or if it is a new task entirely. There is no reason they see themselves as unfit for a task or challenge.
They also instill this motivation to others.
2. Confidence
A self-lover is confident. It is not being rude, but you never give them a second place.
Their mindset is of the sort that if it can be good for ‘A’ then it can also be better for ‘B’. They would not settle for a ‘NO’, rather they would decipher on how to work things through.
And they are overly not so bothered about the negative perceptions or sense of judgment some people might have about them.
3. Ready to take correction or admonished
Self-loving people would never see a simple rebuke or a correction of love as you trying to intimidate them.
They are ever ready to take correction and to learn.
Their optimum goal is usually on how to become “a people suited person without displeasing themselves.”
4. Apt to self-development
Self-loving people are apt and keen to self development. It does not bother them to learn, unlearn, and relearn so long as it has nothing to do with attacking their personality.
They are dynamic to the dynamic world and would never love to for situations to catch them unawares; be at school, work, and religious gathering or even among peers.
5. Not ready to impress
One who loves self is always real. This is because they are of the mindset that they do not need to be more for you to accept them for who they are.
They celebrate who they are and look forward to who they are becoming, making it practically impossible for them to paint a picture of who they are not or who they can never be.
The ‘celebrity and media thing’ is usually not their thing; their sanity is of great importance to them.
6. Not Intimidated nor do they intimidate
They rarely see themselves as one who is in a battle of who is better or most important to anyone.
This makes them not to feel intimidated by whoever or whatever.
They would not give room for you to talk down on them or judge them with their mistakes. They have belief in themselves, so they would never give you permission to see or say less about them.
If you are with them, they do not pick on your mistakes even if they were your superior. They would confidently put you through and reassign the task to you until you get it right.
7. Do not judge their past but see it as memories
People might have concluded on them, judged them, or abused them in the past. Sometimes loving yourself does not mean you had a great background or the best of experiences before.
It is the eventual decision of knowing you are better off than where you came from and using the stones cast on you to build beautiful castles.
Their stories (good or bad) are part of what makes their memories and an experience to be shared with others.
8. Not spiteful
Yes, they maybe and can be hurt. But they eventually learn to live through whatever might have hurt them in the past.
They cannot lead there life like they need to prove a point to anyone or there is a need for vengeance or payback. This is because they know that the more they hold unto what is wrong from the past, the more they are going down health and emotional wise.
Their none-spiteful nature reflects in the manner they resolve conflicts.
9. Fun to be with
One sign I have spotted undeniable amongst people who love themselves is the fact that they are positive-charged and always pass same to their environment. A meeting with them leaves memorable indent, as they would always make it lively and fun.
They do not need to do too much to make you happy. Their words alone are soothing and memorable.
10. They make wonderful lovers
They are the epitome of genuine love. They give out because that is what they are made of.
It isn’t difficult to have a good relationship with ‘true self-lovers’.
11. Time for themselves
They give themselves quality time and attention — from when and what they eat, to exercise, rest and how they would dress.
They often steal time to be with themselves and appreciate their virtues, likewise the qualities that make them who they are.
12. They say pleasant things to themselves
They do not talk to themselves with the words of others. They tell themselves agreeable things that make them want to achieve more.
They can stand before the mirror only to have a delightful conversation with themselves as if they were talking with someone else — very heart pleasing words.
