I Read the Book ‘‘7 Signs to End That Relationship Now’’ for 1 Year, Before I Understood
You may like to find out why
It may be difficult to understand a book when you are the one in the picture. The book 7 Signs to End That Relationship Now is a perfect teaching of how a beautiful love story turned sour, with so many twists and turns. A book that shared an experience of a long wait for something that would not come.
The book is beyond just a book for me; it is more like a story and an experience. Last year, I wrote some stories about my relationship experience and how I got waned from a breakup.
That was the tip of the iceberg of what I was yet to see as regards relationships. The experience was more like prepping me for the bigger heat which was yet on its way. And I would like to add this, ‘heartbreak is painful and makes one weary.’
I had a perfect relationship experience by my standards of “perfect” for 3 years, with one of the young women I will ever cherish most at some point in my life. The bond for me was so strong that I felt we’d cross being just boyfriend-girlfriend. We knew there was more to what we are doing, or I thought we both had plans for where we were going.
Fast forward, to the toxic end of the relationship, I had to document the beginning of the relationship, how it felt for both of us, the subtle signs that kept showing in the relationship, and the uneventful end in 7 Red Flags to End That Relationship Now.
However, if you are in a relationship where you do not understand if the relationship is toxic, abusive, or uneventful, then, I think reading my story will help you know your state, and define what you are doing and what you should do early enough.
Addressing the red flags in your relationship as soon as you can is very pertinent. This is because, whether or not we believe it, we often look like what we go through and will eventually act the same. If you have a peaceful habitation, you will act peacefully and treat others the same way, and the reverse is also the case for the opposite.
If I am to tell myself this story again, and if I am to go home with some lessons from my experience. I will go with these 3 picks from my broken relationship journal.
A toxic relationship can be creepy at times
When situations and events become so familiar to us, we think it is okay. And it starts gradually, we complain a little or we decide to manage it until it becomes familiar to us. Then we make excuses for them when our attention is called to address them.
Those are how subtle, abusive relationship characters begin. Sometimes we feel it will change until we get used to it.
Well, I shared recommendations on how to spot these early signs and what to do when they come in the book from my experience.
Anybody can change
With me and my ex, documented in the book, I noticed anyone can change. It doesn’t matter how loving they were or what your story with them was like before. Relationship of any sort is best when you understand each other and the approach to follow them.
It’s possible to use an old way of association, to relate with a new person. This can cause you heartbreak and disappointment. If you can spot these changes soon enough, it will help both of you in the relationship from now on. I didn’t see the changes with my ex soon enough.
No need to endure what’s not working
Being beclouded by emotions sometimes often makes us crazy and also do crazy things. Crazy things like enduring what we should have been enjoying or making excuses for some things which obviously shouldn’t have been anymore.
I started seeing some changes, and worse to it was begging for a relationship which my ex frequently had approached me it should be over. I felt I acted in love and care to beg for the relationship, but I was just being crazy.
There shouldn’t be threats of any sort in a relationship, more so no one should feel it’s because they are in your life that is why you are complete. There should be respect and mutual feeling.
Conclusion
Well, it took me one year to know that my relationship was already a mess, and wouldn’t go anywhere. I am the main character in the book 7 Red Flags to End That Relationship Now.
